Monthly Archives: November 2015

Overcoming the Guilt of Moving a Loved One

Sometimes family members act as caregivers for seniors with health issues.  This can be physically and emotionally taxing, especially when working with someone whose condition requires an advanced level of care that you can no longer provide.

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For some, the idea of having to care for the people who raised them and took care of their needs for so long proves to be both confusing and heartbreaking.  For others, looking after the physical needs of older loved ones may be impossible because they are in a different location, they are attending their own children’s activities, they do volunteer activities, or they have work responsibilities.  They are unable to take care of them no matter how much they would like to help.

No matter the situation, it is difficult to see loved ones begin to decline as they age.  It can be even harder when they reach a point where they need to move from a home they may have been in for generations into an unfamiliar retirement community setting.  Sometimes feelings of guilt accompany such decisions.  “How could I do this to my parents?”  “The only memories of my dad that my mom has left are in this house, isn’t it cruel to make her leave?”

Becoming safer and restoring relationships

During these difficult times, it is important to remember that there is only so much you can do for a loved one in decline.  Do not lose sight of the fact that you did not cause their illness, and that sometimes professional care is necessary.  It is hard to know the progression of an aging parent’s health.  Without professional supervision, issues such as dementia and limited mobility can pose significant health risks.  Assisted living offers all of the necessary healthcare options for your senior loved ones in a community setting that allows for fellowship and activity.

Remember that very few aging parents or spouses would want their loved ones to give up their normal, everyday lives in favor of taking care of their needs.  By helping your loved ones make a move to a retirement community like Primrose, you ensure that they will be taken care of.  Your relationship can get back to that of parent-child as opposed to child-caregiver.  Additionally, you will find yourself a part of an incredible care team instead of having to endure all of the stress and responsibility on your own.

If you have questions about how Primrose can help you through this situation in your own family, visit us at  It would be our honor to serve you.

Senior Living Helps Prevent Negative Effects of Depression

According to a recent study published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, older adults lacking face-to-face contact with family and friends are at almost twice the risk of developing depression as those who see friends and family regularly.  Data collected from more than 11,000 adults age 50 and older was used in the study, which was conducted by the University of Michigan as part of their Health and Retirement Survey done between 2004 and 2010.

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Details of the study indicate that regular contact via telephone, letter or email has little, if any, effectiveness in offsetting the risk of depression associated with the lack of face-to-face contact.  In fact, only 6.5% of participants who had face-to-face contact three times or more each week showed symptoms of depression, compared to 11.5% who had in-person contact only once every few months or less.

Past research also suggests that lack of social interaction of any kind can contribute to premature death, increasing the chance by 14%, which is twice that of obesity.  Socially engaged seniors are also more resilient, allowing them to more easily cope with adversity in their lives and in the lives of their friends and families.

It is not good for us to be alone

This study is but one in a long line that indicate we are a social people, and that our lives are richer and more meaningful when we have someone to share them with.

At Primrose, community is at the heart of everything we do.  Friendships blossom here, as seniors from all walks of life share their stories with one another.  Our residents often find that they have more time to go where they want and do what they want with their friends and families – and leave the housework to someone else!  In fact, many of our assisted living residents experience positive changes in their health simply by spending time with their peers in such a supportive and active environment.

If you or a senior loved one are struggling with depression and isolation, and if you have questions about how Primrose can help, we would be honored to visit with you.  Go to for more information, including contact info for the Primrose nearest you.