Monthly Archives: November 2015

Overcoming the Guilt of Moving a Loved One

Sometimes family members act as caregivers for seniors with health issues.  This can be physically and emotionally taxing, especially when working with someone whose condition requires an advanced level of care that you can no longer provide.

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For some, the idea of having to care for the people who raised them and took care of their needs for so long proves to be both confusing and heartbreaking.  For others, looking after the physical needs of older loved ones may be impossible because they are in a different location, they are attending their own children’s activities, they do volunteer activities, or they have work responsibilities.  They are unable to take care of them no matter how much they would like to help.

No matter the situation, it is difficult to see loved ones begin to decline as they age.  It can be even harder when they reach a point where they need to move from a home they may have been in for generations into an unfamiliar retirement community setting.  Sometimes feelings of guilt accompany such decisions.  “How could I do this to my parents?”  “The only memories of my dad that my mom has left are in this house, isn’t it cruel to make her leave?”

Becoming safer and restoring relationships

During these difficult times, it is important to remember that there is only so much you can do for a loved one in decline.  Do not lose sight of the fact that you did not cause their illness, and that sometimes professional care is necessary.  It is hard to know the progression of an aging parent’s health.  Without professional supervision, issues such as dementia and limited mobility can pose significant health risks.  Assisted living offers all of the necessary healthcare options for your senior loved ones in a community setting that allows for fellowship and activity.

Remember that very few aging parents or spouses would want their loved ones to give up their normal, everyday lives in favor of taking care of their needs.  By helping your loved ones make a move to a retirement community like Primrose, you ensure that they will be taken care of.  Your relationship can get back to that of parent-child as opposed to child-caregiver.  Additionally, you will find yourself a part of an incredible care team instead of having to endure all of the stress and responsibility on your own.

If you have questions about how Primrose can help you through this situation in your own family, visit us at www.primroseretirement.com.  It would be our honor to serve you.

Senior Living Helps Prevent Negative Effects of Depression

According to a recent study published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, older adults lacking face-to-face contact with family and friends are at almost twice the risk of developing depression as those who see friends and family regularly.  Data collected from more than 11,000 adults age 50 and older was used in the study, which was conducted by the University of Michigan as part of their Health and Retirement Survey done between 2004 and 2010.

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Details of the study indicate that regular contact via telephone, letter or email has little, if any, effectiveness in offsetting the risk of depression associated with the lack of face-to-face contact.  In fact, only 6.5% of participants who had face-to-face contact three times or more each week showed symptoms of depression, compared to 11.5% who had in-person contact only once every few months or less.

Past research also suggests that lack of social interaction of any kind can contribute to premature death, increasing the chance by 14%, which is twice that of obesity.  Socially engaged seniors are also more resilient, allowing them to more easily cope with adversity in their lives and in the lives of their friends and families.

It is not good for us to be alone

This study is but one in a long line that indicate we are a social people, and that our lives are richer and more meaningful when we have someone to share them with.

At Primrose, community is at the heart of everything we do.  Friendships blossom here, as seniors from all walks of life share their stories with one another.  Our residents often find that they have more time to go where they want and do what they want with their friends and families – and leave the housework to someone else!  In fact, many of our assisted living residents experience positive changes in their health simply by spending time with their peers in such a supportive and active environment.

If you or a senior loved one are struggling with depression and isolation, and if you have questions about how Primrose can help, we would be honored to visit with you.  Go to www.primroseretirement.com for more information, including contact info for the Primrose nearest you.

 

Pueblo Primrose Veterans Day Celebration

Pueblo Primrose Veterans Honored

4 newest honorees and their family members (left to right Al, Ed, Ray & Harlan)

What an honor to celebrate Veterans Day with Primrose at our 5th annual Veterans Day Ceremony at the eleventh hour, and the eleventh day, of 2015. The East High School JROTC Color Guard team posted the colors and residents Bernie and Ruth sang America the Beautiful. Patriotic poems were read by residents and staff members and then all Veterans stood for an appreciative round of applause from the audience.

Primrose of Pueblo is fortunate to have 28 residents who are Veterans, and we honored the 4 newest Veterans with certificates of appreciation. Their service period included WWII and Vietnam and were both Army and Navy branches. The high point of the event was when Executive Director Glinda MacKenzie and Dining Director Deb Mertz unveiled their photos on the Wall of Honor for all to see. Family, spouses, staff and friends were able to be in attendance to make the occasion even more special. Congratulations to Al, Ed, Ray and Harlan. Thank you to all the Veterans for their service and to those still serving. God Bless America!

Lima Primrose Residents Craft Christmas Ornaments

Lima Primrose resident, Pauline, working on a decoration

Lima Primrose resident, Pauline, working on a decoration

Lima, OH, Retirement Communities

For many years, the ladies of the Lima Garden Club have visited Primrose on the first Tuesday of every month. During each visit, the club leads our residents in some type of project from true gardening with seeds and soil, to craft endeavors and many other projects. During their most recent visit, the club enlisted the help of our Primrose residents in making Christmas tree ornaments.

These handmade ornaments will decorate a very special tree. This Christmas tree will be on display at the Allen County Museum in downtown Lima during the museum’s annual Christmas Tree Festival. The Christmas Tree Festival began in 1972 by the late Helen Mack for the purpose of providing a traditional holiday event for all members of the community. Our residents are very excited and grateful to be a part of this project. We also appreciate the Garden Club ladies for their dedication to Primrose!

Lancaster Primrose Residents Enjoy Buckeye Lake Winery

Primrose residents enjoying their trip to the lake

Primrose residents enjoying their trip to the lake

Lancaster, OH, Retirement Communities

Lancaster residents recently visited the Buckeye Lake Winery one afternoon for lunch. A few of the residents that went recall the fun times they had at the lake. As we were taking a driving tour of the lake, Primrose resident, Louretta, was reminiscing about the time she had spent there as a child. Her parents would rent a house on Custer’s Point for 2 weeks out of the summer. It was something that she and her family looked forward to doing every summer. She recalls riding “The Dips” rollercoaster. When Louretta was an adult she would go to the “Crystal Ballroom and the Pier Ballroom” to listen and dance to the music of Glen Miller, Louis Armstrong and Tommy Dorsey among other big band names.

Another resident recalls hitchhiking from Lancaster to the lake so her and a friend could go dancing. “Back then we didn’t have to worry about anything bad happening to us, we just did it because we loved to dance.”

Those by-gone times may be in the past, but everyone agreed it was an enjoyable trip down memory lane and fun to experience the Winery at the Lake.

Findlay Primrose Residents Experience 'Six Degrees Separation'

Hal (left) and (Don) enjoying a meal and conversation together

Hal (left) and (Don) enjoying a meal and conversation together

Findlay, OH, Retirement Communities

The “Six Degrees of Separation” is a popular theory that two people anywhere on earth can be somehow linked to each other in only six steps. Findlay Primrose has that concept beat by five steps! Although, to their knowledge, they had never met prior to moving to Primrose, two of our residents recently learned they were indeed linked together.

Hal and Linda, who have lived at Primrose for a little over two years, found themselves seated at the same lunch table last week with two of our new residents, Don and Patsy. Don and Hal quickly struck up a conversation and began sharing their lifetime travel stories.

When Hal was in college he became good friends with a fraternity brother, Matt Yuricich. Their friendship continued after college and Hal eventually followed Matt to California, where Matt pursued his dream to become a “matte artist” for motion pictures. It wasn’t long at all before he was creating special effects in many well-known Hollywood movies, and Hal was lucky enough to land a job as well at MGM and 20th Century Studios. “Unions were big in that day, and everyone’s job had a specific title,” Hal explained in a recent interview. “I don’t remember what mine was but it really was no more than a glorified light bulb changer,” he chuckled.

Don also lived in Hollywood on two different occasions. The first was when he was about 21 yrs. old. He had not yet received his business degree, and had been working at Ford Motor in Detroit when he got the opportunity to move to California to work at an accounting firm. Don lived just two blocks from downtown Hollywood near the famous Hollywood Walk of Fame.

When Hal shared some of his work history with Don, he was somewhat taken aback by his response. “Why, I lived in Hollywood about 60 years ago too,” Don said.

“Oh really?” Hal asked. “What part?”

“On North Orange Drive, near Sunset Blvd.”

Hal’s eyes widened. “When was that?” he asked.

Nineteen forty-nine was his answer. They both fell silent for a moment before they began to laugh in disbelief. It seems they both lived on North Orange Dr. in Hollywood, California, during the very same year; not at opposite ends of this short Drive, but a mere building apart on the same side of the street! What are the chances that two strangers, now living at the same retirement community, in the same city, being “neighbors” nearly 3,000 miles away some sixty-six years ago?

The clincher of this unique and amazing story is that Hal and Linda recently relocated from a Primrose Villa to an apartment inside the building. And the residents who now live in that particular Villa? Don and Patsy! It certainly is a small world.

To find out more about the retirement living experience at Primrose, please contact your nearest Primrose Retirement Community today to see more of our fun and social living. We’ll happily answer all your questions and show you around our beautiful communities. Come see why we say, THIS IS LIVING!

THIS IS LIVING

Mansfield Primrose Veteran Relives WWII POW Experience

Clarence Scofield

Clarence Scofield at Primrose

Mansfield, OH, Retirement Communities

Clarence Scofield was nearly shot by a German SS lieutenant in the closing days of WWII.

Scofield and the surviving members of his platoon had just surrendered when that lieutenant ordered the guards to move away so he could start shooting.

“It seemed that is was all over when another German soldier ran toward us with his arms waving in the air. He proved to be a white-haired colonel who must have been 50 years old,” Scofield said. “That SS officer was just a kid, and the colonel gave him a chewing out like I’d never heard before. The lieutenant stomped away in a huff, and our German-speaking member told us later that the colonel pulled rank and forbade the lieutenant from executing us.”

Sgt. Scofield and his men spent the last couple days of WWII in an impoverished POW camp, living on a diet of rutabaga soup, black bread and boiled potatoes. “Our overall treatment was good,” he said.

Scofield joined the Army at age 18. After basic training, he joined Company B of the 142nd Army Specialized Training Infantry Battalion. He was slated to be an engineer, but the Battle of the Bulge in Europe changed that, and Scofield was shifted to the 386 Regiment of the 97th Infantry Division. Combat began March 28th and would continue day after day until the day Scofield was captured during the Battle for the Ruhr Pocket in Germany. He called April 17, “the worst day of war for me.”

One evening after his platoon had dug in, Scofield was nearly hit by an enemy shell, which turned out to be a dud. His platoon fought off several German attacks, but the most memorable day for Scofield came when he and his men walked into a German village and encountered women dressed in long white dresses and colorful jackets and blouses. Then two elderly men dressed in black suits covered with sashes and medals presented themselves to the weary American riflemen. “It was like something out of ‘The Stent Prince,’” Scofield said. “They approached us and it turned out that they were the town mayor and band director, the official welcoming committee.”

Soon after, Scofield and his buddies were cut off and pinned down in a building by machine gun fire. A German 88 shell hit the building and knocked Scofield unconscious. When he awoke, he found that he had become a prisoner of war, but his time in the POW camp near Prague, Czechoslovakia, was short. Soon after he arrived in camp, the Russian army came calling and the prisoners joined them, heading west toward American lines.

During a skirmish with the Germans, Scofield said a Russian officer had his men charge. Forty of them were lost in the process. Eventually, Scofield and his mates broke away from the Russians, captured a German staff car and headed in the direction of American troops. The war ended a few days after that.

A trip home on a packed Liberty Ship was slow and nasty, he said. But once home, he was given one month of liberty to see his family before eventually being discharged. With the help of the new G.I. Bill (of Rights), Scofield attended Baldwin Wallace College, where he earned a degree in English. He was a school teacher for eight years before taking an accounting job with Lise Technologies in Cleveland. He worked there for 30 years before he met and married Barbara in 1955. The couple had three children and four grandchildren.

Wasilla Primrose Hosts Local 'Scratch' Artist

Scratch Artist Ed at Wasilla Primrose

Wasilla, AK, Retirement Communities

Scratchboard is a piece of cardboard similar to poster board that has been coated on one side with a layer of hard white chalk. The artist paints, rolls, or sprays black ink onto the surface. After the ink dries, the artist scratches through the ink with a sharp stylus or knife, creating white marks or lines by exposing the chalk underneath.

You can buy premade scratch boards to work with or make them yourself. JoAnn’s, here in Alaska, carry holographic scratch art kits with a tool to use. Ed is a local scratch artist who was invited by one of our residents to come share this art form with us. He has been doing this form of art for two years, and has been awarded grand champion awards for his artwork. He works in both color and black and white.

We plan on getting some supplies for our residents to give this art form a try. They all seemed excited, and Ed encouraged them to try it – he even brought along some materials for them to experiment a bit.

Expressing yourself through art is a very personal experience and can be shown through painting, scratch art, crafting, quilting, sculpting and many other art forms.

To find out more about the retirement living experience at Primrose, please contact your nearest Primrose Retirement Community today to see more of our fun and social living. We’ll happily answer all your questions and show you around our beautiful communities. Come see why we say, THIS IS LIVING!

THIS IS LIVING

Kansas City Primrose Residents Visit Pumpkin Patch

Hundreds of Pumpkins from the patch

Hundreds of Pumpkins from the patch

The Primrose Gang

The Primrose Gang

Kansas City, MO, Retirement Communities

On a nice fall day, we decided to take a ride to historic Weston, MO to visit two pumpkin patches. On our way, we loved gazing at all of the leaves and their brilliant falls colors. While at Vaughn’s pumpkin patch we browsed thru the store and bought apple cider, apples, honey, apple butter, and apple turn overs. We also spent some time taking pictures.

Along the way we went over many bumpy roads thru the country – riding in the bus makes for a fun, but rough, ride! The trip brought back memories for some of our residents of when they rode in older model cars. Next we stopped at The Red Barn Farm, where we spent time petting animals and looking at hundreds of pumpkins! They have the best frozen slush apple cider! While shopping in their store we found all kinds of exotic brownie mixes to try, and the residents said it was one of the best trips they have ever had to a pumpkin patch.

Sioux Falls Primrose Visits Apple Orchard

Sioux Falls Primrose residents enjoy a trip to the apple orchard

Sioux Falls Primrose residents enjoy a trip to the apple orchard

Sioux Falls, SD, Retirement Communities

Sioux Falls Primrose residents recently took a fun trip to the Country Apple Orchard just outside of town. Thankfully, the weather cooperated with the sun shining and hardly any wind – a beautiful Fall day by all accounts. Everyone enjoyed seeing the trees full of apples and big, orange pumpkins covering the patch. Inside, they found lots of homemade items for sale along with apples and other assorted goodies and treats. When the residents were done looking, Primrose treated everyone to coffee and a piece of apple pie with ice cream. Ursie said “that was the best part of the trip”! Elaine could remember when she used to make apple pie for her family, and how much they always enjoyed it. We had great fun laughing and talking about the orchard. We thank the Country Apple Orchard for letting us come for a visit!

To find out more about the retirement living experience at Primrose, please contact your nearest Primrose Retirement Community today to see more of our fun and social living. We’ll happily answer all your questions and show you around our beautiful communities. Come see why we say, THIS IS LIVING!

THIS IS LIVING